“Gift of Friendship,” 6″ x 9″ Watercolor, By Donna Lyons ©2008

“I love you”

By Marty Coffin Evans © 2024

“I have some bad news,” my friend Art said in a soft voice. He went on to tell me of his Stage IV lung cancer diagnosis.

We talked and shared memories from our 40-year friendship. Both of us recalled his presentation at an Industry Education Council meeting where he had described the upcoming Equestrian Events during that summer’s Los Angeles Olympic Games. We didn’t linger on those memories as soon others filled our conversation.

How often do we tell others of their importance in our lives? My friend was doing just that. He had a list of friends, beyond those in the family, where he was telling the story of his current health challenge. Certainly, family members will surround him, and his wife as will friends nearby.

In the coming days, he would learn about the treatment for his diagnosis. He did not want flowers, but, rather requested prayers. Cards and calls would be welcome. Perhaps now, these can come in a more regular basis instead of sporadically.

Years ago, I learned my lesson when calling my Aunt Lucille, former secretary Phyllis, and close friend, Nancy. Little did I know, they’d be gone months later. I was so grateful for making those calls where we connected over fun stories. I hope I told them how much they meant to me.

My friend’s gift of friendship, begun those decades ago, expanded with his caring call. I was most grateful to have a place on his list of those to call. It sounded as though he’d rest a bit before contacting another.

We said our goodbyes with “I love you” through our emotion-laden voices. I look forward to talking with him again soon.

Several days later, when I shared this writing with my friend Art, he responded, “I cannot tell you how much reading your thoughts mean to me at this hour. You have been such a wonderful friend for these many decades and even now you reach out with such kind words to reflect on the essence of our relationship. You are such a blessing to me in every way.” Love, Art.

We need to remember to tell others we love and care about them. It’s never too late, until it is!

February 2025